What
Needs to Change, Doesn’tA client tells me he needs his sister to get on board with nursing care
for their aging mother.
Another client needs to sell her house - pronto!
Just last week, I needed my missing cat to come back home.
It seems our need for change is nonstop, and yet when we need
something to change we actually empower the very condition we don't want.
That's because the energy of "need" - the insistence on change - actually
engages more of the opposing condition. You know, "what we resist,
persists."
Lao Tzu said it in the Tao Te Ching like this:
"Simply notice the natural order of things. Work with it rather than
against it. For to try to change what is only sets up
resistance."
Sound familiar? Abraham readers hear this as "making peace with
what is" in order to allow the shift. We've got to release resistance
in order to get what we want, and that includes releasing the need
for things to be different than they are.
It doesn't make much sense on the face of it, does it? We accept
things as they are now, and that's what allows change?
Yep.
Who saw U.S. gymnast Raj Bhavsar's vision board in his
Olympic coverage interview? He talks about how he had to release
his need and make peace with what he didn't want back in 2004. And
guess who ended up replacing Paul Hamm on the team this year?
Raj makes it look easy, but I know it isn't always so. For some
reason, we've been conditioned to believe that pushing against something is
the most effective way to change it.
But that's not how it best works.
Needing something to change, in order to feel better or gain peace of mind
or happiness, doesn't work.
We've seen this in action many times, right? Like the couple who
struggles to get pregnant finally gives up (either by adopting or changing
their minds) and next thing you know she's knocked up?
Or when we need a new job there aren't any to be had, but when we're happy
as a lark we see employment opportunities left and right?
Or how the light always turns red when we most need to get through it?
Needing something to be different than it is is to be in resistance.
And resistance is a surefire stopper to your manifesting success.
My suggestion is to recognize where you're needing something to change, and
start making peace with it. That doesn't mean giving up your desire,
or thinking you can't have it - it just means marrying up acceptance of what
is with a light, pleasant, positive expectation of your desire. Raj is
a good example of that.
My client practiced no longer "needing" his sister to agree with him on
what's best for mom. He made peace with the fact that they didn't see
eye to eye, and took steps that felt good to him under current
circumstances. With the release of that tension, he's actually paved
the way for mutual understanding and common ground.
Releasing your need for things to be different than they are takes the charge off, the manifesting brakes off, and allows you to get what you want. But don't take my word for it - try it yourself!
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