Micromanaging
Universe? Try Free Rein!Help with manifesting money is the number one reason I get hired as an
LOA coach. Second is attracting love. Although they might seem like
different challenges, you'd be surprised how much overlap there is regarding
the obstacles involved with these two desires.
The most common obstacle in realizing these two goals is having
fixed ideas about how this desire is going to manifest. In
love, we often get so narrowly focused that we think only one person can
deliver on this. (We call them our Soul Mate or The One or our
Ex-Girlfriend or something else just as limiting.)
With money, we call it our Job or Tax Return or Inheritance - whatever idea
we have about how money is going to come to us.
Knowing how this thing is coming to you and focusing exclusively on
that just ties the Universe's hands. This sort of
mircomanaging doesn't serve anyone. Source Energy can deliver in many more
ways than you can imagine when you give it free rein!
When we're fixated on one particular avenue, we not only cast a worried eye
towards that avenue (because it is, after all, our only hope), but we also
shut down other opportunities that may deliver even better. That slows
the whole flow!
Since this "fixated" theme has popped up with my clients lately, I looked
where I'm hung up as well. (Because we don't
experience what we're not a vibrational match to, so if my clients are
vibrating it that means I am too.)
It puzzled me at first because I think I'm as open to love as it gets.
Same with money - it flows in from places you'd expect it to be flowing out.
I'm not one to get hung up on "how" love or money's coming - I'm wide open
on these subjects and Universe has a really good time with me as a result!
(And I do mean a really good time - you'd be shocked to hear how easily
money and love flows in to my world!)
But then I thought about my "best shape ever" manifestation. I've got
it in my head that my body's ideal shape is a size six, and I'm dialed in on
that size six like a heat-seeking missile.
That's my micromanagement slowing the flow. I think
fitting into size six is going to be my dream come true. And yet, I know
better: it's not the number or the person we want. It's the feelings
we associate with that person or thing that we're truly after.
So it isn't the number I want as much as it is to just feel good in my
skin. I want to feel fabulous about my body. I want to be
healthy and energized and capable. (And hot. Smokin' hot!)
How do I know this? Because even if I achieved size six, but still
felt out of shape or unhealthy or unattractive, I wouldn't be thrilled. I
want to love my body and love myself. That's all.
It's easy for me to see how my clients handicap their satisfaction
by focusing on the wrong target and mircomanaging the Universe - not so easy
to see in one's self. (Thanks, clients, for prompting me to look!)
If you can see where I went wrong in thinking six was what I wanted, you've
got skills. I invite you to use those skills and practice that
awareness on yourself!
Get to the ESSENCE of your desire and focus on that. That gives
Universe lots of free rein to play with and deliver what you want
even better than you imagined!
How to know what the essence of your desire is? This is simple:
Hold in mind what you say you want, then ask yourself how that would
make you feel. It's always the feelings we're seeking
(although we often don't consciously realize it).
For example: when William confided he wanted out of the family business, I
asked how he would feel if he were free from his dad's company. He
said he'd feel relieved and free.
I asked how satisfied he'd be if he made his exit from the family business,
but then found himself in a new job that felt equally stifling and
unrewarding. Would he feel like he got what he wanted?
"Obviously not," he retorted.
Well, if it's so obvious - let's be clear with our intentions! "Free
and Relieved." That's the order for the day. That's a very
different instruction than "Out of the Family Business."
Give Universe an authentic target and some room to play (by
focusing on the essence of what you want).
Recognizing our true desire and getting clear about it unties the Universe's
hands and gets the goods flowing again.
This is your official invitation to clarify your true desire and stop
micromanaging the Universe, allowing your happy endings to manifest at last!
If you're so inclined, please feel free to reproduce this article in full with proper author credit (that would be me, Jeannette Maw) and link back to Good Vibe Coaching. Thanks!
