You've heard the phrase "what we resist, persists."
It means whatever we push against, we actually empower and continue to
create.
Which, we know, right? This isn't the first time we've heard that
releasing resistance is key to letting the good stuff in. But
do we practice it?
It surprised me recently to discover how much resistance I still engage in
my own life. (And I'm a pro at this!)
Let's look:
If you're ready to manifest romance in your life, how do you feel about
being single? (Do you appreciate it, or are you going to scream if you have
to attend one more wedding without a date?)
If you're tired of living paycheck to paycheck, wanting financial abundance,
how do you feel about your debt? (Discouraged, resentful, or at
peace?)
If your desire is to lose weight or get healthier, how do you feel about
your body now? (Like something needs changing, or have you made
friends with it?)
Loving the very thing we want to be different can be a pretty good trick,
huh? I mean, if I truly loved these hips of mine I wouldn't be wishing
them smaller.
But until I do love these hips - or at least get neutral about them, they're
not going anywhere. We find ourselves stuck in the very thing
we wanted to change.
Because as long as we don't like it, or look at it as wrong or bad,
we are in resistance. And that resistance creates MORE of the
same. More big hips, more lonely nights, more financial shortage.
So if you're convinced that needing things to change actually prevents them
from doing so, the next question becomes how to let go of that resistance.
That is, how to get okay with something you are definitely NOT okay
with.
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Tips & Tricks: how to get okay with what’s not okay
Here's what I've learned through my own and clients' experiences when it comes to releasing resistance: you can't fool the Universe.
You can pretend to be in love with your single lifestyle. You can
try to make peace with mounting debt. You can say affirmations about
loving your body ... but until you really DO (make peace and love), Universe
isn't budging.
Because it can only answer what you vibrate. So if you're flowing "I
gotta make more money" or "I need to drop some weight" or "I'm tired of
waking up alone," that need for change is what keeps change from
happening.
Did you catch that? It's subtle, but big.
So how do you vibrate no resistance? There's only one way: that's to
actually let it go. To release your need for change.
Which means making peace with what is - for real. No pretending or
faking will do.
The goal is to get okay with the fact that someone owes us money and isn't
paying; to be able to truly smile when we see our gorgeous bodies reflected
in the mirror; to learn to enjoy life and ourselves now - without needing
something to change first.
That acceptance is exactly what signals Universe for the change!
That doesn't mean you have to let go of desires. It just means you want to
get to a place of enjoying what is and eager for what's next. Flowing
the desire for something new along with accepting present circumstances.
"Happy on the way" is the way Abraham puts it.
It helps if you just learn to focus more on what does make you happy, and
less on what doesn't. That refocus itself is a big
vibe-shifter, and the reason that a commitment to "feeling good"
works so well.
If you're so inclined, please feel free to reproduce this article in full with proper author credit (that would be me, Jeannette Maw) and link back to Good Vibe Coaching. Thanks!
