The
Invisible ObstacleWe've studied this deliberate creation stuff long enough to know what our
obvious hang-ups are to getting what we want: limiting beliefs, lack of
vision, focusing on what we don't want, etc.
But there's a more deceptive obstacle to our success that many of us
don't see. It may sound obvious once I point it out (I also wrote
about it recently), but the fact is lots of folks immerse themselves in
this obstacle without realizing it holds them back from getting what they
want.
I'm talking about action. Making things happen; figuring
it out; taking action steps to accomplish our goal. Very often the
thing we do to manifest our dreams is what keeps it from happening!
Story after story of this abounds in my own life as well as my clients'.
I'm sure you've got a couple of your own examples, too.
Last week a top producer for a well known international development company
told me his company president vehemently insisted that after a big event he
conduct in depth follow up interviews with 75 people in the next 48 hours.
I haven't done the math to know whether that's even possible, but I'm
positive that task would do me in.
My client had the same reaction. The mere thought made him want to
collapse in bed, but he is the top producer, after all, and doesn't want to
put a kink in his success. Or fall out of good graces with higher ups.
So he's gearing up for phone calls he doesn't really want to or have time to
make, because that's what it takes to be successful. Right?
Maybe not.
Here's what we know: we get what vibrate. That's how
our world works. So if we dive into action that feels inspired and
exciting and fun, we're likely a vibrational match to the fabulous end
results we hope to achieve.
But if we dive into action that feels like work, struggle, effort, "supposed
to" or "should do" - then we're not likely vibrating a happy ending.
(Unless my happy ending involves more work, struggle and effort - which I
guarantee mine doesn't.)
How many of us, though, when we see the task or goal ahead, jump right into
action - figuring out what it'll take to make it happen?
When we get fired, is our first knee jerk reaction to manage the emotions
and get to a feel good vibration? Or is it to feel a sense of panic as
we tell folks about our unlucky situation and update our resume, network for
leads, read the classifieds, etc?
When we experience a medical challenge, do we remember to relax and hold our
desired end result in mind before we start researching treatments, making
appointments, and purchasing medications?
Some do. And we'd each be well-served to count ourselves in that
category! Because taking action without managing the energy is a
fool's path. (Trust me, I know it well.)
Which is why I'm such a fan of goofing off. For me, goofing off is
feel good energy. It's relaxed, light, peaceful and fun. Very
opposite of the energy I often engage in to "make something happen."
Action only serves when it feels good to engage in it, so anything that
doesn't feel good actually hinders progress.
Not everyone feels good goofing off, but I suspect that's because of the
limiting beliefs we may harbor about it. Without those beliefs, I
think you'll find the vibe of relaxation and peace much aligned to your
dream come true.
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Tips & Tricks: how to line up vibrationally with what
you’ve been wanting
The gift of goofing off won't serve you if you don't believe it will.
So I wouldn't recommend goofing off until you understand the power it holds.
Just remember that we get what we vibrate, so doing anything that
feels good will serve us - especially if your beliefs are in alignment.
Having said that, I checked in with my favorite goof off experts for their
tips on how to get started:
Building snowmen, wearing
fun sunglasses, fuzzy
colored socks, taking vitamins from a
Pez, listening to favorite music, stretching out in the sun, long dog
walks (my favorite!), breakfast at the local cafe, reading at the bookstore,
taking a hot bath with a sweetie, window shopping, calling friends out of
the blue, skipping rocks at the lake, surfing online, feeding carrots to the
neighbor's horse, making cookies for friends, good old fashioned
daydreaming, and going to a
matinee are some of the other suggestions I heard.
If you're being responsible, working, or productive, you are not properly
goofing off. If you are not enjoying your goof off time, you are not
properly goofing off, either. It might take some practice, especially
if you are a hard worker who habitually gets things done.
Whatever you do, don't keep at it, as that's the anti-definition of goofing off. Give up, relax and enjoy, and you'll soon be a goof off expert, too. :)
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