Feeling the Money Love?"Are you kidding me?" my boyfriend exclaimed as I went back to the store
for a sack of groceries I left behind. It was $11 worth of food that
he didn't think was worth the trip back.
"I piss away more than that every day."
He said he blows through $30 every day without second
thought. Paying extra for gas here, buying expensive lunch there,
never thinking of a coupon or shopping for the best deal.
He's more into convenience than counting pennies.
Which is fine. For him. (Apparently. He rolls in the
dough, so something's working.)
I, on the other hand, treat money differently. I don't "blow" it and I
certainly wouldn't "piss it away" - at least not on purpose. I even
cringe at the thought of using that word in reference to money. How
disrespectful!
Since we moved in together, my boyfriend's behavior around money is getting
new attention from me. I might not have cared before, but one joint
checking account later it's a new story.
As I considered whether I should counsel him in the error of his ways (that
was my judgment about his treating money "disrespectfully"), I remembered
that it isn't our behavior that matters - it's the feeling that
matters.
Because we get what we vibrate. The action doesn't make the
difference - our vibration does.
So if he feels good about blowing cash, that's a fine vibe to flow.
Incomprehensible as it may be to me.
And if I've learned anything about money, it's that we each feel
differently about it!
Example: I love not balancing my checkbook. Ever.
Yes, I briefly glance over a monthly statement to make sure charges
look familiar and appropriate, and that works for me.
Much different than when I followed my CFP-trained advice to track every
freakin penny that came into and out of my life for an entire year.
Ugh! I was supposed to learn financial responsibility and become
enlightened about how money worked in my life, but all it taught me was how
to get really kinked up about it.
My girlfriend, on the other hand, delighted in it. She loved this
newfound power over money. Loved feeling in charge of it, knowing
where it was coming and where it was going at all times.
Didn't do that for me.
My boyfriend's the opposite. He enters all his expenses in a Quicken
spreadsheet. The guy who burns through $30 a day carelessly. And he
thinks I'M irresponsible for not balancing my checkbook.
Aren't we funny?
Thankfully I know better than to believe I know what's best for him.
What's best for him - indeed for each of us - is to
do what feels good. Whatever that is, whether it's paying ten
cents more per gallon at our favorite gas station or driving back to the
grocery store for $11 worth of food left behind.
I'm also learning it feels best not to worry about how he treats money
(although I may have to remind myself that a time or two again).
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Tips & Tricks: suggestions on how to identify and
improve your money love in order to create the
financial experience you want.
In order to have the financial experience we want in life (whatever that
looks like for each of us), we need to create vibational alignment to it.
That's how we create anything, including money: we feel it first,
then it happens.
Most people I work with want an abundance of easy money coming their way.
They want to feel good about their finances and for it to fund all their
wild dreams come true.
(I'll refrain from my lecture about putting money on the hook for making
your dreams come true.)
Anyway - in order to experience that kind of love from money, we've got to
flow the love towards it. Because money responds to how we feel
about it.
So if you feel uptight about it, money will be uptight with you. If
you feel easy about money, it gets easy with you. If you treat money
disrespectfully, it will seem disrespectful to you.
Money is nothing but a mirror of our own feelings about it!
Thus, if you're wanting money to show up abundantly, effortlessly, easily
and naturally, your work is to feel abundant, effortless and easy about
money. You get what you vibrate.
So don't expect you can be worried about cash and get any experience other
than more cash-flow worries.
Rather, ask yourself how money's treating you, and look at how you're
treating it. If you like what you see, full steam ahead! Don't
worry what anyone else thinks, because all that matters is how you
feel.
If you don't like what you see, consider a change.
You can learn to treat money the way you want to be treated. Relax
about it, be easier on this topic, look for reasons to thank it, say nice
things to it. It will respond quickly to your new vibe, but you really
have to shift the vibe - not just say the words. You can't fool the
Universe.
There's another important aspect that I taught an entire 5 week course on,
but will sum up in a couple sentences: If you're loving money but it's not
loving you back, check in on how you feel about your Self. After all,
Universe can only be as good to you as you are to your Self.
When you flow the love to yourself as well as money, you're a surefire hit for whatever money dreams you entertain!
If you're so inclined, please feel free to reproduce this article in full with proper author credit (that would be me, Jeannette Maw) and link back to Good Vibe Coaching. Thanks!
